How i live with my wife peacefully?

i dont understand why so many people think of marriage as a HORRIBLE thing... i loved my husband when i married him, and i love him even more, now, 5 years later. and im sure 10, 20 years from now i will love him even more. surprise her, and show that you love her, be cheesy and sweet!!! like when you were boyfriend/girlfriend, never loose that spark, happy wife is a happy marriage . do your part and she should reciprocate